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Originally Posted by jorgelito
As for the Asian chick, anti fishstick, who said, "I don't find Asian guys attractive", that just proves my point. Most women tend to "fall" for men that most resemble themselves or their father. But because she obviously hates being Asian (cause it's not a cool race or whatever) she associates all things Asian as negative. It's also denial. "Oh I'm not Asian, I'm American", then distancing themselves and surrounding themselves with all white friends etc.
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Uh.. Where did you get off thinking that I *obviously* hate being asian? You're making a big leap and jumping to conclusions.
1) My step-dad is white. I've never met my real dad. My boyfriend is nothing like my dad. At best, the ONLY similarity is skin color. But who cares.
2) I'm proud of my culture and family and the fact that I come from a different background than most people in my area. I think international/multi-racial studies are fascinating, so there's definitely no negativity there. I also love the asian aesthetic, and have been naturally drawn to eastern philosophies which I've found out on my OWN since I was raised catholic and rejected the religion. So, in my opinion, all things western are NOT "correct" or superior. I have rejected a lot of things that society thinks is correct.
3) There is simply not many asians in my area. I'm going to go for what's there. I don't think about skin color on a conscious level when I'm with someone. It's not like I think "oh, I need to find an asian now". That would be the same kind of objectified exoticism displayed when caucasians seek asians solely to have an asian. I don't objectify people.
I go for character, personality and looks. I've been attracted to caucasians, blacks, asians, hispanics... But in general, I'm most attracted to caucasians. My reasoning for not being attracted to asians is because in traditional asian culture, asian men are dominant and treat the woman with little respect, or at least not by my "americanized" standards. I just can't relate to most asian subcultures because I haven't grown up around them. They're very different from my perspectives that I have grown up with and I don't think I would be attracted to it.
4) I do think I'm american. I'm a US citizen and I've lived here most my life. But I don't think I'm white, and there's a difference.
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Originally Posted by KnifeMissile
Oh, I don't know. I've won the heart of someone who never found asian men attractive and never thought she'd date one. So, you never know! Unless you have a prejudice against them...
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Nope, no prejudices here. I don't even think about ethnicity when I date people. That's what people don't seem to get here. White males who look for asians are doing so for the sole reason that they're asian. When wilbjammin met me, he wasn't looking for an asian, but our character and personalities matched really well. I never look for asians. I've never dated one but I wouldn't be against it if our personalities matched and I found enough similarities there.
On the other hand, if I were living in the Philippines and an American was looking for a Filipino wife, I probably wouldn't be receptive to that even though many Filipina women do just so that they can go to the states and live a better life. For me, any sort of objectification or "trophy" is not a better life. This would be just as bad (and function similarly) as a dominant Asian man/subdominant Asian woman relationship.