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Originally Posted by jorgelito
As for the Asian chick, anti fishstick, who said, "I don't find Asian guys attractive", that just proves my point. Most women tend to "fall" for men that most resemble themselves or their father. But because she obviously hates being Asian (cause it's not a cool race or whatever) she associates all things Asian as negative. It's also denial. "Oh I'm not Asian, I'm American", then distancing themselves and surrounding themselves with all white friends etc.
It's actually pretty sad.
As for white dudes, well, that's pretty obvious. They are objectifying, fetishizing, exoticfying their fantasy. They are more into the "trophy" novelty and the prospect of getting some Saigon Slut and "me so horny" loving. Just look at the previous posts and the subtext. Same goes for hot Latina (love that J-Lo) or Jungle sex with Halle Berry thinking.
Not one mentioned any individuality or anything of substance in their relationship with an Asian chick. Instead, stereotypes are used to justify behavior and sandbag entire demographics.
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Well, considering that I'd know a thing or two about her, since she's my girlfriend:
She never met her real dad, he skipped off before she was born. But, going by your reasoning, even if she did grow up around him, all of us should be locked into some sort of Freudian trap and always fall for people like our parents? That is a strange stance...
I would never simply refer to her as a "chick", its disrespectful.
We've been together for a year, and we have a strong relationship.
There are Asian cultures, and there are cultures in America. Given that she has spent the majority of her life in a predominately white community, with a white-step dad, speaking American English and living a normal American life there is no reason to say she should be "more Asian" or that she hates being Asian. She simply identifies more with what she's been around. Your claim is the same as saying that I should like Germans and Prussians because of my ancestry, even though I don't speak German and don't have many connections to German and Prussian traditions.
I don't treat her like a trophy. Relationships take a lot of work, and we've put that work in, and are continuing to put that work in.
You are using stereotypes and demographics to "sandbag" the idea that a white man could have a meaningful relationship with an Asian woman. There are bad interracial relationships, and good interracial relationships. The way to judge relationships is to look at how they function.
I could say more, but this covers the basics of the vast generalizations that you've made that I find to be misplaced.