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Averett · 12-10-2004, 06:13 AM

I think it's both cliche bullshit and fact. Just depends on the relationship.

I had a college professor who would give us little nuggets of information. One of them was "Depending on your relationship, when you're apart from your love, it'll be either one of two things: Absence makes the heart grow fonder or Out of sight, out of mind."

And I agree. Dr. Bolton was a smart man...

When it came to my ex-boyfriend, for me it was the fonder aspect, for him it was out of sight, out of mind. Which manifested itself in him cheating. And once we broke up, after a couple of months I was finished. I didn't miss him, I didn't care. Out of sight, out of mind.

With my boyfriend now, we're 6 hours apart by car. I get to see him at least once a month, so it's not too bad normally. But there are days when I miss him terribly. Does our time apart make me love him more? No, I don't think so. But it doesn't make me love him any less. Luckly in this age of emails, chatting and cell phones we keep in contact daily. If I couldn't talk to him at all for the time we're apart... I'm not sure how I would handle that.

But I'll get to see him in less than 12 hours. Hooray!

12-10-2004, 06:13 AM	#18 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	I think it's both cliche bullshit and fact. Just depends on the relationship. I had a college professor who would give us little nuggets of information. One of them was "Depending on your relationship, when you're apart from your love, it'll be either one of two things: Absence makes the heart grow fonder or Out of sight, out of mind." And I agree. Dr. Bolton was a smart man... When it came to my ex-boyfriend, for me it was the fonder aspect, for him it was out of sight, out of mind. Which manifested itself in him cheating. And once we broke up, after a couple of months I was finished. I didn't miss him, I didn't care. Out of sight, out of mind. With my boyfriend now, we're 6 hours apart by car. I get to see him at least once a month, so it's not too bad normally. But there are days when I miss him terribly. Does our time apart make me love him more? No, I don't think so. But it doesn't make me love him any less. Luckly in this age of emails, chatting and cell phones we keep in contact daily. If I couldn't talk to him at all for the time we're apart... I'm not sure how I would handle that. But I'll get to see him in less than 12 hours. Hooray! __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.