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ScottKuma · 12-06-2004, 08:58 AM

1) Have you ever been cheated on (that you know of)? - YES
2) If so, by how many different people (that you know of)? - 1
3) Have you ever cheated? - YES
4) If so (for #4), how many different people did you cheat on? - 1 (THE SAME PERSON AS IN #1)
5) How many of these occured in a serious relationship? - 0

This took place in a high school relationship. I cheated first -- but what really constitutes cheating? I kissed another girl -- and felt like complete & utter shit about it. I told her, and she broke up with me.

We got back together after much goveling on my part, and then she went & cheated (SEX) on me...on purpose.

Since that time, I've never cheated.

I think that cheating is a sign of either immaturity or abject unhappiness. It doesn't necessarily follow that it is a statistical certainty that you'll be cheated on...but I think that chances are good when we're younger. Part of that is due to the inclination to date just ONE person. I don't think this is necessarily a good thing for teenagers, and even in college! It creates a false sense of intimacy - especially sexual intimacy - that most teens aren't ready for.

In my opinion, dating just one person should probably be reserved for the step before engagement. Date many, date one, propose to one, marry one.

*shrug* But what do *I* know?

12-06-2004, 08:58 AM	#17 (permalink)
ScottKuma Insane Location: Maineville, OH	1) Have you ever been cheated on (that you know of)? - YES 2) If so, by how many different people (that you know of)? - 1 3) Have you ever cheated? - YES 4) If so (for #4), how many different people did you cheat on? - 1 (THE SAME PERSON AS IN #1) 5) How many of these occured in a serious relationship? - 0 This took place in a high school relationship. I cheated first -- but what really constitutes cheating? I kissed another girl -- and felt like complete & utter shit about it. I told her, and she broke up with me. We got back together after much goveling on my part, and then she went & cheated (SEX) on me...on purpose. Since that time, I've never cheated. I think that cheating is a sign of either immaturity or abject unhappiness. It doesn't necessarily follow that it is a statistical certainty that you'll be cheated on...but I think that chances are good when we're younger. Part of that is due to the inclination to date just ONE person. I don't think this is necessarily a good thing for teenagers, and even in college! It creates a false sense of intimacy - especially sexual intimacy - that most teens aren't ready for. In my opinion, dating just one person should probably be reserved for the step before engagement. Date many, date one, propose to one, marry one. shrug But what do I know? Last edited by ScottKuma; 12-06-2004 at 09:03 AM..