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To answer my own question I will paste the reply I posted on CaribPlanet yesterday concerning this question. It is a bit of a long read, but I had to get all of this off my chest.
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What I'm about to say may sound contrary to everything I've posted on this subject since I started as a CP member back in 2002, but bear with me.
First of all, I do believe in foreplay and I am very well aware that it is damned near impossible for a woman to get full satisfaction when it comes to sex if she has not received an adequate amount of foreplay to "warm her engine up." Also, I find sex to be much more pleasurable for me when my partner (currently my girlfriend of 3 years) enjoys it and gets an orgasm because no matter what a man does and how lousy the sex may be, the male body is biologically wired to have an orgasm with ejaculation so a man will eventually cum 99.999% of the time unless there is a medical problem.
This being said, I must admit that there are often times when I just do not feel like taking all the damned time necessary to put a woman in the mood because I'm either too horny to hold back for that long or else too tired to be able to provide 20 to 30 minutes of foreplay and another 20 minutes to an hour of penetration on top of that. When I've been up since 5:00 am and have not had a break all day, I am definitely not in the mood to go try to spend 30 minutes on foreplay for my girlfriend at 10:00 or 11:00 pm while fighting fatigue---in fact, the thought of all that foreplay becomes a major turnoff at this point. If I happen to be horny this late at night, all I want is to bust a nut and collapse because I'm too drained to do anything else.
Call me selfish or whatever you might have it, but I think that women should take more responsibility to get themselves aroused when they want sex and they know their man is too tired to give them both the foreplay and the penetration necessary to achive orgasm. If a woman is horny and she knows her partner is tired, she ought to take the time to manually stimulate herself to a point where she either reaches orgasm or is very close before turning to him for penetration; if she does this she will not only be able to reach climax quickly as soon as he starts penetrating her, but she will also be able to enjoy his orgasm as well and he will not feel pressured to perform and fight his fatigue at the same time.
Hours upon hours of foreplay may be all good in Harlequin novels, but in reality no man is willing to spend that much time on foreplay when he's super horny and wants to get his rocks off.
And finally here's my message to the women concerning foreplay and sexual stimulation:
Ladies... If a man doesn't take the necessary time to stimulate you and get you hot and wet it's not because he doesn't love you or doesn't care. You shouldn't assume that a man will intuitively know what pleases a woman if he really cares because that is just not true. The reality of the matter is that you ought to take more responsibility for your own pleasure. When you're on top and riding the dick, reach down and play with your clit, damnit!!! When he's hittin' it doggie-style and you want to get that extra "umph" going for you, reach between your legs and stroke the damned clit, damnit!!! Don't just expect to lie there like a dead dog and put the entire responsibility for your pleasure in a man's hands because that is an immature and unrealistic expectation.
And in closing I have this to say. If you really want a man to last longer during sex, don't just tease him for hours and get disappointed that he busts a nut fast... Suck his dick until he busts his first nut and then suck him some more until he's hard again. Trust me, we can stay erect much longer after we've gotten the first ejeculation out of the way.
Thank you for your attention, and I hope this was not too long or dry of a read.
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Doncalypso... the one and only Haitian Sensation
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