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Originally Posted by CityOfAngels
I realized that no one deserves to be cheated on, and that there's no way to avoid it. You can't be super-boyfriend or super-husband and expect that your significant other won't cheat on you. It can happen at any time. And from the society I live in today, it seems that it happens more often than not.
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It can happen at any time, and it may happen more often than not in this society. But the trick is to build the trust and communication to sustain a good relationship. Make sure you're both on the same page as to how you value the relationship and where you'd like to go with it. It also helps that you don't seek out women that are predisposed to cheating or have a history of it.
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Is this true? Is your significant other statistically bound to cheat on you some time or another? Also, if this is true, does that mean that YOU are statistically bound to cheat on your significant other? Well, let's find out.
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I wouldn't say this is true for all people yet, even in our society. I have not been with anyone who has cheated on me, although I hate to admit that I have cheated on an ex. I would never cheat on my current boyfriend because I value our relationship more than anything else I've ever been in. I trust him. In fact, he's right here with me looking at this as I type. I'm much happier, whereas I was never happy in my previous relationship and never really wanted to be in it in the first place. Cheating was a consequence of alcohol, which is the worse excuse (you are still accountable for your choices to take alcohol), but many people use it as such.
1) Have you ever been cheated on (that you know of)? not that I know of
2) If so, by how many different people (that you know of)? n/a
3) Have you ever cheated? yes, I kissed a friend.
4) If so (for #4), how many different people did you cheat on? just one. I had another chance to cheat again but didn't.
5) How many of these occured in a serious relationship? I wouldn't say the relationship was serious at the time.
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I HOPE that I'm wrong. I HOPE that I'm just thinking negatively based upon my own experiences.
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You are just thinking negatively based on your own experiences. It seems like you've acquired a negative, perhaps cynical, viewpoint of relationships at an early age from your parents. This might have contributed to the cycles you find yourself in with girls that have cheated on you. Finding the same type of girls becomes a pattern.
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But if I am correct; if people really are statistically bound to cheat on their significant others, then something REALLY needs to be done about our social integrity when it comes to relationships.
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cheating is just a symptom of other things that are wrong in a relationship. When a person thinks they have to search outward in a relationship, that means something isn't satisfying them.