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Originally Posted by the_marq
I think there is a misconception here that the abusers who are viewing these ads will see themselves in them and make a connection. IE: "hey, I am kinda like that guy dumping the coffee on the waitress, maybe my actions are not appropriate." You and I being of saner stuff would hope this connection would be made.
The trouble is that the abusers never make that sort of connection. They are doing what they feel is right and everyone else is wrong. All these sorts of "shocking" adds are going to do is upset children and abuse survivors.
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I tend to disagree with you. I think that the target is neither the abuser nor the abused.
The target is the person who hears this through an apartment wall or sees happen and does nothing.
If you see it or hear it and don't report it, you're contributing to some helplessly trapped person's misery and suffering and share just as much guilt as the abuser.
Sure, no one wants to butt in or get involved. But do you then wish to live with yourself? Think about it.
I know the arguement exists that the abused must do something to get out of the situation, but that is sometimes beyond their means. Fear is a terribly powerful and persuasive force.
Also, the police can and will arrest an abuser without the abused pressing charges. If the police catch it happening, they can drag the bastard away in chains. An abused person pressing charges is an "after the fact" thing.
Don't just sit there and turn up the TV. Do something. And FYI, yes, I have called the police when it was necessary. I'm not going to jump into the middle of a domestic violence situation on my own, but I'm not going to let it go on if I have the power to do something about it, either.