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I used to have this problem around everyone, now my problem is just with my wife's friends. The solution to this seems to be the solution I fould when I recognized that my problem happened mostly around women. That solution turned out to be actually realizing that I was a pretty damn great guy, and if they don't see it, so be it. when they say tht women are attracted to confidance, it isn't a joke. After I fnally got over worried about being rejected, I wasn't rejected anymore.
I'm sure finishing puberty helped matters a bit too.
Now my only problem is with mingling in a crowd, but I'm working on that too. I've found the best way for me to get over that is to hang around with outgoing people who I'm comfortable with. Surely you know one or two people who can strike up a conversation with anyone, anywhere. Hang out with them a few times, just to learn how they strike up the conversations, and you'll feel much better. Seems the only think that keeps me from doing it, is actually doing it. Again, it seems to all stem from confidence.
That and beer. As much as I hate being the center of attention, b33r makes me want to try out for American Idol (if I were young enough).
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