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does anyone else soooo not miss high school??? this kind of thing sucked, but it's part of that fun learning curve we all go through at some point. who was it that said "with friends like these, who needs enemies"?
to aphroditeskiss1--you aren't being unreasonable for wanting to end a friendship. you will have to do this so many times in life for so many different reasons. sometimes the person does something to hurt you, and sometimes you discover you simply don't like them anymore (for whatever reason). not trusting someone is a damn good reason for ending a relationship of any kind. so is being hurt and humiliated by them (for whatever reason). even if this were coming from ryan/bryan it wouldn't be excusable (though a bit more understandable...).
to brian/inera---you admit you were an ass, for whatever reason. as sorry as you may be, that doesn't make what you did (hurtful comments and sharing secrets) okay. it's great that you trust your mom and are comfy going to her with problems but really, unless we're talking abuse or self-destructive behavior (suicidal, drug abuse, etc) taking your friends' probs to your mom without their consent is flat out rude. i do understand your reasoning, but when someone tells you something personal and in confidence that means you don't share it with other people--including your mom.
as for telling bryan/ryan about aphroditeskiss1's involvment with this other guy--how is that any of your business? what if she had been telling the truth when she denied it? unless nate had some pics or video to back up his story it was all he-said-she-said anyway (assuming you got it from nate and not some other friend that he told...). while i understand wanting to protect your friends, you aren't their keepers and you don't have a magic wand to fix all problems in their lives. in this situation, it doesn't seem you helped at all by telling. their relationship remains but you may lose a friend over it. i'd suggest learning to keep your mouth shut when it comes to secrets (or warn others not to share anything they wouldn't want your mom to know) and keeping your nose out of others' affairs. what she did may have been wrong, but it wasn't your place to decide the fate of their relationship. noone made you choose between friends, you decided to pass judgement on her behavior and stop being a friend because of it.
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