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Originally Posted by skier
There's a difference between assertive and agressive. What dualman did was rude and provoking- it was agressive. He could have told the guy to slow the hell down because he didn't want to be hit crossing the street. But taking the blame yourself is not a solution. You'll take a lot of crap from the world if you accept it. I'm sorry, it's my fault, i'll fix it... these phrases all place whatever blame there is solely on yourself. Don't be stuck cleaning up someone else's mess.
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Course not. But if there was no incident, then it can't be anyone's fault, can it? Besides that, people make mistakes. People are emotionally fallible. People are self-centred. You'll live a longer, happier life if you allow yourself to forgive them for those things when it's something small like what happened to the topic creator.
I'm of the belief that assertiveness is taken too far to the extreme too often in our society. It's good to have, but people act like it's THE thing to be in all situations. They also don't realise there are multiple facets to assertion, not all of which are active and aggressive. It has its place, but it is a concept that is too frequently taken out of hand.