StephenSa

I've had that problem before. It can be a big mental block. After the first time it happens you then worry about it happening again so it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Then the more you try not to think about it the more you DO think about it. Hard to get any blood to your penis when its all in your head! Aarrgh! A few suggestions; have the condom easily accessible and have the package already torn so you don't spend a lot of time fooling around retrieving it and trying to get the package open. Practice putting one on so that doesn't slow you down much either. Try to relax and take your time. Just try not to feel pressured. The worst thing that can happen is you don't get laid and the best is that you do. You've got nothing to lose so try to just go with the flow. Easier said than done I admit but the less anxiety the better. If you still can't get it up, do things to please HER. Sex isn't all penis into vagina you know. You've got a tongue for more than just talking so use it. A lot of women like their nipples kiss and sucked, gently caress and kiss her all over her body, and of course performing oral sex on her is usually a crowd pleaser! You've got fingers too so use all your tools to give your partner pleasure. You might find that during the time you are spending on her your downstairs friend has crept up and is at attention, ready for action! Also as you get the girl more turned on she might be more inclined to give you the "help" you need. I've found that after a successful penetration or two the anxiety goes away and there are no more problems. Should this continue for a long time you might consider talking to your doctor about it. I don't hink thats where you are but if so don't be shy about bringing it up. Docs hear it all the time and thats what they are there for. Buck up! This too shall pass.