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I understand your di·lem·ma. I'm not one to judge how you should chose a girlfriend, and I don't believe your inquiry is about a double-standard.
It sounds to me like you have doubts, or at least you are concerned that your friends have doubts. Your friends say you can do better. Have you asked them what they mean by this? Are they aware of your girl's past experiences? In what sense do they think you can do better?
Here's were the rubber meets the road: you know what's important to you in a girlfriend. If you are looking for a long term relationship, it is wise to look at a person's past to get an idea about who they are today. The choices a person makes are a good indication of what the person values. Does her family seem healthy? Growing up in a chaotic or unstable environment sets a pattern that is hard to break. Drug use and sexual prom·is·cu·i·ty might be an indication that this girl did not have a stable family life growing up. Is it possible for people to change? Sure, but most don't, especially those fundamental patterns set when they were children.
If her past is troublesome to you, don't rush into anything. Get to know her better and see if she has a healthy personality and lifestyle. Look before you leap.
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