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Originally Posted by DaDictionaryBoy
The point isn't that he can't have an opinion. The point is that he can't "forbid" her from doing it. Every one is entitled to have an opinion, but you can't use emotional blackmail to enforce it.
If she wants to pose and he doesn't, then it's still her choice because it's her body, just as it would be his choice if she objected to him posing. The strength of their relationship will be in whether she chooses not to do it because he objects, or in what he chooses to do should she decided to pose even after he objects.
But all this talk of "allowing" and "forbidding" is just a bit too "Me man, you woman" for me, at least.
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What constitutes "forbidding"? If he feels strongly about this subject, then he has every right to tell her that there may be negative consequences if she chooses to go about doing it anyway. That is not "emotional blackmail" that is him telling her his true feelings (if he has some to that effect). I fail to see how this is any different than her say, kissing another man. This might not bother some, but it bothers others, the fact that your gf posing nude does not bother you has no bearing whatsoever on if it bothers him. Obviously this bothers him, so why is it wrong? Is he rendered so impotent by it being her body that he can not have an opinion? If this was any other subject (say not one that people percieve as being akin to "a womans right to choose") then people would be telling him to express his true feelings to his partner, and to determine how strong he feels about it, not "It's her decision, you just need to deal with it".
Like I stated earlier, this depends entirely on how strongly he feels about this. If he equates it as nearer to cheating, then he has a right to state that, and to state that the consequences may be similar to those associated with cheating. There is no right or wrong here, only opinions. Stop trying to make him feel like he is doing something wrong (emotional blackmail) for stating his.