Marrek

Ok, long time reader of the wonderful TFP, and this is probably the first time I've posted in over a year or so. I've kind of got a weird situation I'm in involving me and my buddy's girlfriend, and I was looking for any kind of insight or advice on the situation and what I should do, if anything, so here goes.

One of my best friends Nathan, and his girlfriend Jessica, have been dating for a little over a year now. I've known Nathan for probably six or seven years now, and Jessica for around two. When I first met Jessica, it was through Nathan's then-girlfriend Katie. We all hung out and always had a great time. Jessica and I flirted a lot and life was good.

Well, Nathan and Katie decided to break up, and even though Jessica and I were interested in each other, she and Nathan ended up getting together. They have a pretty strong relationship. They've had some problems in the past when it comes to Nathan playing video games and whatnot over spending time with her, and this where I come in.

I don't know if she just wanted the attention, or was pissed off at him, or what the deal was. But I would go to Nathan's apartment, and while he was there playing video games, Jessica and I would mess around in another room. Nothing major, just kind of feeling each other up. Like, over the shirt/pants stuff. This started going on about three months ago.

Nathan has been changing his ways, and pays more attention to her. However, atleast once a week (it seems) when both Jessica and I are at his place, we will end up fooling around. It usually happens when Nathan goes to work (graveyard shift) and we're there alone. Also it tends to happen more after we have smoked a little weed. I don't know if that has anything to do with it but I figured I'd toss it out there.

The actions been getting progressivly better (or worse, depending on who you are) each time it happens. Two nights ago I had her bra off and she was giving me a kind of pseudo-foot job. I know that's not some big thing, but it's a lot farther than we've gone before with each other. I tried getting into her pants but she stopped me there. Anything else I do she openly encourages, though.

When Nathan is around, she doesn't do anything to make it seem like she's interested in me. Once Nathan walks out of the room though she gives me this look that just has "I want you" written all over it. If Nathan's not paying attention she'll slap my ass, pull my hair, grab my nipples etc. I'm kind of into the pain and being dominated thing, and she knows that. So I assume she's doing that to turn me on, or atleast show interest.

Now being the sexually deprived, 20 year old male that I am, I'm obviously not going to be turning this action down. It's just that it happens once during the week, and I get really anxious about trying to make/have it happen again, to the point where I get pissed if it doesn't. Considering she's not my girlfriend, and I'm going behind one of my best friend's backs to do this, it DOES kind of bother me. But at the same time, I really really like this girl, and I do think she is genuinely interested in me.

I'm not going along with it solely because I'm just horny. I really do care for this girl and given the chance would date her in a second. That's just kind of out of reach due to that whole "never date a friend's ex" rule, plus her and Nathan aren't even broken up.

So I guess what I'm asking is, should I talk to her about it and see how she feels? And if so, what exactly should I say? ANY insight or advice on this would be greatly appreciated, as I am really bothered by the situation as a whole.