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Originally Posted by forkies
i think it's interesting to see the assumptions made by people about my sexuality...
the story is: i'm male, my partner is male. we have been together for nearly 4 years. he says he is not physically attracted to me at all, and he gets off to same-sex female porn.
how do i react? can two people who love each other more than anything have a happy relationship when one partner is honestly not physically attracted to the other in the slightest?
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I would have to agree that porn in and of itself has very little to do with the situation. Meaning that the use of porn in a relationship is one issue and the subject matter of that porn a separate one.
The fact that your partner suggests that he's not attracted to you is a huge problem--one that should encourage you to have some LONG honest conversations alone or with a neutral third-party. Doesn't matter if you're M/M or F/F or M/F--lack of attraction is a serious thing. Happens in all couples equally for tons of reasons and the only solution is honest communication.
Now the fact that he's looking specifically at F/F porn should give you some direction to ask questions....is it possible that he's having some "crisis of faith" regarding his sexual orientation? Does he define himself as Bi- rather than Gay? Could it just be momentary curiousity for someone who may not have had experience with women?
Regardless, it would seem that you should have a serious conversation with your partner and get those questions answered.