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i don't buy into what the monogamy salespeople are selling. There is no emotional scarring going on here. ...... It all depends on how realistic you are about what it really means to be in a relationship with another person, as opposed to what our society tells us it means to be in a relationship with another person. I think polyamory is about being a realist. Your perspective is exactly what i am trying to avoid, because you can't seem to fathom how someone could go about being in a relationship that is fundmentally different from the kind you choose to be in and still have a successful relationship. It is condescending for you to imply that my lack of enthusiasm for monagamy is a result of some sort of fear and that if i could only overcome this fear i would see that monogamy really is the one true way.
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Naw, not really. People will do whatever people truly want to do. I truly beleive mine is the most right and fulfilling way, yes. Not because I have been preprogramned to by society though. I too have weighed the pro's and cons and have decided that one is better than the other.
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I'm not holding anything back. I don't know why you think monogamy is necessary for a relationship to achieve its maximum potential.
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You are not expecting anything either? If she left or slept with someone else the next day you would be okay with that? You must have done well with sharing in Kindergarten.
no, seriously. Boundaries and definitions are what make something special and unique. If your boundaries include other people, than that special and unique can potentially include anyone! Exclusive is not bad. The rich have a privat eclub - okay then, I go start my own. People have a great marraige - and I want the same thing - I go after my own! exclusiveness is exciting, bold, and dangerous. There is more potential for hurt - and at the same end more potential for penultimate trust and expression.
To be honest - how can you trust this person? It is beyond my comprehension - honestly - not understanding, because many of my friends become involved polyamously....but to comprehend how that can halp in growing trust and love. I just have to disagree.