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The way to best counter what you and those in the eleven states that voted
to "protect" marriage espouse is to demonstrate against your penchant for
legislation intended to restrict the sexual behavior of consenting adults or the
reproductive rights of women, by boycotting your tourist and convention
venues, and other currently conducted commerce that the rest of us do with
you or your business interests. There are still many areas in the U.S.
where the majority of the voters have no interest in using their state
constitutions as instruments of discrmination, intolerance, or to extend
the police and prosecutory powers of government. The consequences of
your political philosophy will be more evenly shouldered by you and everyone
you intend to disenfranchise and control if the rest of us avoid doing
business with you. If we don't act to discourage you, who will you next
focus on when your goals of anti gay and anti women's reproductive rights agendas have been fully achieved?

If you "want to have the same say in a child that I would be responsible for that the woman does" , why not ask your lawyer to draw up a contract
that you can present to any woman that you intend to have intercourse
with, that informs her that as a pre-condition of mating with you, she must
agree to surrender her right to choose whether or not to endure a full term
pregnancy and birth that might result from you fertilizing her ovum?

Are you so insecure about how desirable you are as a sex partner to members
of the opposite sex that you are unwilling to allow women to choose between
you and your pre-natal "paternal rights", versus other potential partners who
recognize a woman's right to choose whether to host an embryo in her body
until it grows large and robust enough to sustain itself?

You feel strongly about having "the same say" as the woman who must carry
and deliver the product of your mutual conception. Other men do not, and
are willing to cede the choice entirely to their female partner. Why not
conduct your own interpersonal relations with members of the opposite sex
without attempting to interfere with the existing right of choice currently
enjoyed by most women of reproductive age in the U.S., by advocating
legislation to restrict access to safe and legal abortion?

You are free to advocate for equal pre-natal paternal reproductive rights
for yourself, but if you advocate legislating your rights so that you will
be on equal footing with the male competition who largely are pro-choice,
you demonstrate that you are not willing to endure the consequences of
your position which even you seem to recognize as diminishing from your
attractiveness as a potential mate.