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Originally Posted by Brooke
Another note.
I wanted that too once, to need no one. Cause if you can survive on your own you can't be open to hurt.
I am sorry, for you and a bit for the person I was, but the universe doesn't work that way. We all need people. We all need eachother. If you can accept that and yet still still survive on "your own" then you can glimpse the beauty of monogomy and not the restricting claws that you are so fearful of. Take the fear from the concept and there is nothing stopping you from a wonderful, healthy, strong and trusting relationship.  |
Don't cry for me argentina, there is a difference between needing someone to feel emotionally complete and needing people because humans are social creatures. Need is the first step towards coercion. I love the woman i am currently dating, i love the shit out of her. I don't pretend for one second that our relationship will last forever, or that i can't live without her. All i can to is appreciate the time that we share together. That's it. I know i don't need her to be happy, even though her presence makes me happy. I'm not afraid of being hurt, pain and growth are two sides of the same coin. What i'm afraid of is falling victim to an out of touch, disney-esque, idealized image that our society has of love. Right now for me that means completely abandoning my society's oft unquestioned concept of what it means to be in a successful romantic relationship.
The only thing one can't get from a polyamorous relationship that one can get from a monogamous one is monogamy itself.
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Originally Posted by Brooke
Such a union needs no defense. If you have seen one succeede, even where one hundered have failed, you know its merits. You can see its strength. You know it is good.
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I think the same could be said about polyamory.