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This is slightly unrelated yet I see it a lot in this post thus far: The idea that whenever a guy has a particularly zealous like or dislike he is always labeled "insecure". Why is this? Are we, as adults not allowed to have our particular likes and dislikes? If during a conversation it comes up that a guy doesn't like, let's say, "broccoli" people basically think to themselves, "oh", and leave it at that. "So the guy doesn't like broccoli, big deal. He's entitled." On the other hand, if it comes up that he doesn't like women who have slept around, now he's somehow "insecure". What if he just disagrees with it? How is it any different than not liking tobacco chewers, people who sit on his car, rude drivers, or broccoli for that matter?
And another thing...since I'm off on tangents that I'm sure will spark some antagonisitc responses (not my intention, mind you. I am actually hoping for real, legitimate, well thought out responses but I'm guessing there may be some expressed intolerance) why is it that a woman will admit to having been promiscuous but then get upset when she is disparagingly labeled? Isn't that the very definition of all those disparaging labels? I mean it isn't like this is a new thing that was unwittingly sprung on them after the fact and they're being "grandfathered in". To me it is rather like someone who smokes an eighth of marijuana each week getting upset for being labeled a pothead. Or, an alcoholic who drinks a 6 pack a day and a 5th of vodka each weekend getting annoyed the she is labeled a "drunk". The words "slut" and "whore" have been around for a very long time and, in fact, the women who fit those definitions have been judged and looked upon negatively by society for much longer than being a "drunk" has been unpopular. Why is it then that when girls grow up, fully aware of the negative conotations that such actions will bring them in society, they instead choose to live up to those definitions but then get "annoyed" that anyone "dares to judge them" or freely question them? Who is insecure? The people passing judgement? Passing judgement may not be "nice" but I have a hard time accepting that these judgements are in any way inaccurate. Whore is Whore and Drunk is Drunk. That is the defnition. There is little ambiguity. Now where the "numbers" may fall is somewhat a matter of opinion but let's not play ignorant to the spirit of the definition. If a woman is or has "slept around" with a good number of guys in her day then, like it or not, by definition, she is a whore. And, saying so doesn't make the speaker "insecure". It makes them honest. Maybe not nice, but honest, which is more than can be said for the women out there who would support lying about their numbers so that they can get a "free pass" and not be held accountable in society to a long held, talked about, printed, and widely accepted definition.
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