I have the same problem as you, and unfortunately there is no one thing you can do to remedy the situation. Small steps man, work in groups.. If your friends meet a group of girls, you can easily warm yourself up to the conversation while others are talking. If your friends are cool, they won't call you out on being quite and let you flow into it. For when your alone, I would say practice. You can do this by talking to sales women in stores. I don't mean like hitting on them, but just ask them questions regarding merchandise, get used to talking to strangers. Same thing in restaurants, just practice conversation with people. And then obviously, be prepared to humiliate your self when you do try to talk to women. That happens, and it has to happen for you to get any good at it.
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