Yeah, i should've called the thread something else. A choice of relationship really needs no justification beyond, "Because i want to and i think i can make it work."
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Originally Posted by Ustwo
Having been an swinger from time to time I've always frowned on the idea of an open relationship.
Open relationships to me seem more like 'friends who fuck' without much on the relationship side. This may sound hypocritical comming from someone who was a swinger, but with swinging you tend to be together and know what each other is doing. This can add to sex and your relationship without being a threat to said relationship. Swinging is done for the benifit of both partners, while open relationship seem to be based around solo pleasures.
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Relationships are defined by the people who participate in them. An open relationship is only about fucking if that's what you choose to make it about. I would argue that an open relationship requires just as much work with just as much potential reward, than a standard monogamous relationship.
For me, i just see monogamy as such a trap. Every monogamous relationship i've been in, no matter how great it was at the outset, eventually devolved into what could be summed up by cheesy, codependent pop songs- "I can't live, if living is without you" type bullshit. I think it is just more favorable for me to get involved with other people without the unspoken assumption that one day we might have kids or get married.
I probably should have made a journal entry instead of a thread. I guess you live and learn.