Hopefully writing this down and getting some feedback will help add a sense of perspective to my current problems.
Basically I am holiday for 2 months in Malaysia, and am having a fantastic time, and have met many people who i would call friends for life.
However 2 weeks ago i met a girl, (Mandy) who was rather lovely and all things being equal i thougt she shared the same sentiments towards me. These thoughts were confirmed when her best friend(Jane) told me we should go out. I got the girls numb er and prompltly asked her out to the movies on weds. Things turned out that we actually went on a double date with Jane and her boy-friend, and things didnt go too well, infact i felt that it was more like one of my earlier teenage dates whereby nothing was said to each other and awkwardness of the situation was incredible, i couldnt wait to go. Saw the film and then as the girls had school the next day we went to Starbucks for some hotchocolate, and the whole time Mandy's bestfriend was/had to be the centre of attention, needy/naggy and just an absolute bore. Infact i spoke more to Jane the whole night, screwed up....
So i thought right ill give it another go with Mandy, not mandy and her best friend, they were completely inseparable. On friday night i give Mandy a call and explicitly say i want to see you and can we meet at 8:30 outside this place and then i wanted to head into KL to go clubbing with some friends and would like her to join me etc etc. So im sitting outside the place and by 8:45 am begining to get a bit anxious. Give her a text where she replies that they cant get a taxi....I mean what the fcuk tell me this so i dont have to wait like an idiot,
So i go off to get a few drinks, when she texts me to say that she has arrived and that we can meet up. Great i wander into the bar and low and behold she is with Jane....who by 9:30(!) which was the time, is as drunk as a skunk...
The next two hours are spent trying to talk to Mandy/whilst she wrestles with her needy disgrace of a best friend, I'm set to leave by 12 and ask mandy if she can come, no she cant because she has to get her best friend home and tucked up by 1am...
I just say ok, give her a peck on the cheek(only personal contact throughout....)
Ok heres where it gets complicated...deep breath....
Whilst waiting for a cab, i see this absolutely stunning blonde...feeling somewhat drunk and over ambitious, i wander over and just introduce myself and ask if she wants to come to town with me, she couldnt but we exchanged numbers and names etc.
Thought nothing of it and went and had a great time in KL.
Ok so this blond(Sarah) texts me on saturday morning to say she is going out with some friends and would i like to join her.
We go out on saturday and have a great time, and get close.
We then meet up on sunday to see a film, and that was fantastic.
Im really happy and decide to take things further, all the time i havent texted mandy or heard from her either. I figured that she had enough like myself. Anyway on tuesday morning i get a text from mandy saying would i like to see her on sunday(she was leaving on holiday and would not be back until sunday) I texted back that we had to have a chat, and that i would meet her on sunday. She was confused and wanted to know what about. Now there is no way i am going to disrespect her by "Dumping her"(even though it would be somewhat tenuous to describe ourselves as in a relationship) over sms so i just left it at that and would see her on sunday.
Sarah and i go out on tuesday night where we have a great time till we go to quite a small club where Jane is with the rest of her school friends...(Jane is 16)
Of course Jane is as pissed as a fart, vacuous bint then starts shouting that Sarah is cheating on Mandy. And it gets quite heated, i try to reason with Jane, saying dont tell Mandy as i want to do this on sunday etc...fat chance of that.
On Weds, i get some rather nasty texts from mandy- and stupidly at the moment i reply quite curty and obviously this was a bad thing to do as it only worsened the situation(lesson learned in that sense, chalk one up to inexperience)
Then of course you get the insults from the best friend, i hope your happy etc etc...insufferable cow,
So with that sorted out....not the cleanest way to do things granted, but in my opinon case closed, a case of bruised ego etc
Go out with sarah on friday night and have a fantastic night,
Mandy got back last night from holiday and i think for some reason the shit really met the fan....
We were going to meet up this morning but it turns out that Sarah was receiving some really nasty text messages from an "anonymous" number(bravery in all its glory) and we have just had a chat, whereby i learn some really bad things....
Mandy is not good with disappointed or being upset so she hurts herself
Sarah is one of the nicest girls i know and she cant have that hanging over her...so we break up.
I have no problem with this as i want what sarah wants.
Now the thing that is worrying me is this girl that is hurting herself,
what do i do?
Thank you for your time, sorry about the length....