Originally Posted by doncalypso

Hey everyone,

I can understand all of you guys' perspectives, but I think too many of you are too quick to write Rich off as some mentally insecure control-freak and aren't willing to give the guy a chance to redeem himself (or something to that effect). Let's face it, it's not easy for a guy to have to deal with the ghost of betrayal in a past relationship. Not that I agree with society's double-standards when it comes to male and female sexuality, but I too would struggle with accepting the fact that my girlfriend had been much more sexually experienced than me and on top of that didn't climax most of the time when we had sex.

I don't kow about the other men who've posted thus far in this thread, but I've been cheated on twice in past relationships, so if I were to date a woman who'd been with many more partners than I had in the past I would fear that I may not measure up to her past lovers and that she might be tempted to cheat on me if I didn't satisfy her rather than try to teach me the necessary skills to please her. In addition to this, I would be worried if the woman I was with had experienced a sizeable number of one-night stands and fuck-buddies in the past--despite the fact that it all happened before she knew me--because I wouldn't be able to get over the possibility that she might revert to those old ways and one day choose to cheat on me.

You guys gotta understand this.... Whether one is a man or a woman, being cheated on in a past relationship is a very traumatic experience, and it can be very difficult for a person to get over it. Hell!!! I still have to face the demons of past relationships and past betrayals to this day.