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Originally Posted by adam
Only danger is that if he figures it out otherwise, he may feel lied to and deceived. The reality is, if he isn't comfortable with who you are, he isn't for you. Trying to hide bits of yourself to avoid rejection is a dangerous game, IMO.
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I don't think not divulging a "number" is necessarily hiding bits and pieces of yourself. You can say "oh, i went through a period in college where I was promiscuous" instead of saying "I once had 20 partners in 3 months". I think putting it the 1st way is open enough.
Numbers play a terrible trick on people. I know personally I'd rather not know. What matters at this stage of my life is....... is he clean? Is he faithful NOW? Do we have good chemistry together? If he slept with 200 people before me, I never need know about it, because he can NOW be the warmest kindest person in the world - but if it took him 200 partners to get there, I'm going to look at my relationship more cheaply - does that make sense? Like "I don't care if you love me, I'm still only 1 of 200 on your list".\
Starting to remind me of that Don Juan Demarco movie with Johnny Depp.
"How many women have you been with?"
"Including you? Well. let's see there's one.........................thousand five hundred and 1"
