Well first off the "cut your loses" suggestions come up because frankly I'm betting just about everybody has BEEN in a situation like this and at least in my own personal experience it NEVER worked. Period. Many tried very hard but at the end of the relationship they just were all just emotionally and physically(and some fiscally) exhausted trying to salvage something that was never meant to be. But in the interest of being some what sympathetic I have some questions...
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I do not believe in sex for physical pleasure.
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I'll assume you mean this in the context of it's not JUST for physical pleasure right?
If so does your girlfriend also have this feeeling? If not it's a basic difference in opinion that will grow and mutate into things much much more destabilizing. So you guys right now need to figure out if you are both on board in that regard.
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As my gf stated above, sex is very important to me as a manifestation of a romantic relationship. A couple without sex (IMHO) are just friends
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I concur with this HOWEVER sex tends to cloud the issue in many cases. Many people use it as an excuse to mask problems in a relationship and others use it to inaccurately find problems that really don't exist.
Have you guys tried to take a step BACK regress a bit and try to rebuild the relationship a new? Kind of take sex out of the picture. It would give you both some time to do some soul searching and figuring out exactly what problems you both DO have with one another. Because frankly even if you don't have any more problems with her SHE has some definate ones with you right now. If she is saying she isn't IN love with you anymore that's pretty all but the last shovel of dirt on the grave of the relationship. But if you guys take a step back. Start rethinking things evaluate what you both want out of this relationship(how long term is long term for you guys, what are your plans beyond just "dating"). The sex might start masking an underlying problem instead of helping you guys heal so to speak. Suck it up figure out a time frame of how long would be a good amount of time for you guys to just explore each other as a people and then go from there.
And that's my suggestion...
Oh and another thing register your own screen name so people can figure out who's talking a little easier and also so people can give you guys advice via private message if need be.