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When I was reading the first post I was thinking there might be a "I found rust on my car, should I fix it myself" line at the end, and I'm not sure whether I'd be relieved to see that this is all a joke or if I'd be horrified that someone would go to such great lengths for a prank.
That said, Mzm, everyone at the TFP is behind you on this. I'm going to try not to repeat what others have said since it's all fantastic advice.
I think you can show this thread to your wife if you want but in my opinion I don't see what would come out of it. I think she would just do a 180 degree turn and promise to never be unfaithful again, and she would make all the promises all over again, and again, and again. I have very few problems with the 'Once a cheat, always a cheater' claim, but I have to say that I don't believe there are any exceptions to the 'So-far-always a cheater, always a cheater' claim (even though I obviously just made that up!).
What I'm saying is that she is too far gone, and has given you absolutely no reason to trust that her promises will ring true in the future. People make mistakes and should be forgiven, but when it's consistent it turns from a mistake to a problem, and in this case an addiction, or a lack of morality, self-control, respect for you and herself and her child, a lack of decency.
She's got absolutely nothing going for her, you've got self-dignity and respect, a solid foudnation of fairness and forgiveness it seems, but most of all you've got a child to look out for. At this stage you're wanting what's best for your little son, and even though he's not supposed to be here, I'll bet that you love him with all your heart because he's your son! Do what's best for him, and that is to break it off with your wife and give him a stable home.
I'm no lawyer but from what people are saying here you are going to have absolutely no problems winning this battle. Take charge of it, don't give her a new ultimatum, just stand by your old one.
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