StephenSa

Understandable or not it is an issue with a lot of guys. Me, I have to admit it would bother me if I knew the number of men my wife had been with before me. I live in a "don't ask don't tell" world. I don't know, I don't wanna know. I'd still love her and basically nothing would change but if it was a high number then every time I met one of her guy friends or aquaintances I'd wonder if she had slept with him in the past. This would lead to an unseemly picture in my head and I just don't need that aggravation. She had a life before me and is into sex more than I am so I imagine she has had her share and thats fine. I don't know the details or the numbers and wrong or not, it helps me sleep easier. This guy has a problem with this issue and thats his right. It is not his right to call you names and make you feel bad about yourself. Any person that does that isn't worth your time. You are better off without him. As for how many is too many, there is no answer. Each person decides that for themself. I say as long as you are comfortable with it and safe what you do is your business and you can feel good about that. Some people wait until they are married and never have another partner, some get it twice a day. No ones wrong, no ones right, just different.