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Originally Posted by Meier_Link
It's like Chasing Amy. Great movie. Though it shouldn't matter I have to agree with above stated, a lot of guys are uncomfortable if the number is higher than their own number, myself included. Maybe it's just immaturity but the fact is that it is a problem.
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Haha, funny, the first thing I thought of was a Kevin Smith movie as well, except Clerks instead for me. The point is, and Dante after being a dumbass eventually realizes, that none of that stuff matters beyond a childish initial response. I had never thought about the way both Clerks and Chasing Amy had that idea in common.
It really doesn't matter how many people you've been with in my view as a guy. The only thing I can see for myself would be a little bit of intimidation, as I've only slept with one girl so experience on my part might lack in comparison. But again thats just a stupid knee-jerk reaction because something must be right if you're going to shag anyway. Hell, experience can teach experience and i'd always be up for learning. After all, isn't learning why I'm in college?
But yeah, ex-boyfriend saying all that stuff is just typical male jealousy/machoism in my mind. He's not trying to belittle you, but trying to belittle all the other people you've been with and trying to make himself feel like he's above all them. By saying he's suprised he had sex with you, he's trying to feel better than what he sees as the competition who had sex with you and apparently had no problem with it. Its just bullshit trying to make himself feel better, so ignore it and realize whatever happened to make you two 'ex-es' obviously was a good thing in the end to get away from someone like that.
Kudos on getting tested regularly and being able to enjoy yourself however you see fit. Don't let people stigmatize you for doing something you enjoy and do safely.