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We already have most covered here with reverse kegels and all, but let's put some more general on it. The muscle spasms that occur when you are about to cum is what you want to avoid if you don't want to come "early". Most men are aware of the point where they begin their orgasm, usually you begin to feel those spasms or whatever you call it (I hope you understand what I'm trying to describe). What you want to do is avoid coming into that state because when you're there it's only a matter of time before you're going to come. I don't know if it's hormones or what, but it's hard not to when you're there.
Anyway, teverse kegels is really the way to go. You can usually help it on your way by being relaxed in your hips and in your groin area. Ironically many men are so afraid they might come early that they tense up completely and this actually makes them come even faster. So practise your kegels (didn't know they were called that until today) and utilise it while masturbating. Learn to be completely aware of how you slip into orgasm and learn to detect when you're doing that. Most of all be completely comfortable with how you feel during sex. For a few people coming early is a direct physical problem, but for most it's more psychological so working on it and gaining some confidence is the most important thing.
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