Originally Posted by theburner

Phyzix.. She is using you plain and simple. My assumption is because you are such a nice guy that she feels she can get away with it. Also, it seems like she goes out of her way to hurt you to make herself feel better.

1) Get a lawyer. FIGHT tooth and nail for custody, and I mean FIGHT DIRTY. If you get custody, she has to pay child support. That is a win/win for you.
2) Immerse yourself in your child. Don't think of her as a painful reminder of what could/should have been, think of her as part of your support. I don't know about you, but when I hold my son NOTHING is wrong in the world.
3) Don't be used any longer. If you need help with your child ask your parents. They have been there, done that. Nobody loves children like grandparents. BTW, while the first couple of times can seem daunting, once you have a routine for your daughter is gets 100 times easier.

Keep your chin up and and put your back to this whole situation. It is time to move on. Your ex seems to get off on playing with your emotions, and you are allowing this to happen. DON"T.