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maleficent · 10-29-2004, 05:07 PM

I'm gonna be a hardass here and say -- tell her she's wrong - so completely wrong.

I get really tired of hearing women complain that their guy can't get them off, that it's something they are or aren't doing. We, as women, are responsible for our own orgasms, if we can't figure out what makes us happy, how on earth can we ever expect someone else to do it.

The only thing I can suggest is to give her a hand mirror, and a bottle of lube, and tell her to go have fun with herself for a while... The mirror helps you see what you are touching, and where your hand is - -and the lube makes it slippery. Honestly, if she's not comfortable doing that - then the "everything but" you both are doing she shouldn't be doing.

It's not your fault, don't ever think for a moment that it is...

10-29-2004, 05:07 PM	#14 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	I'm gonna be a hardass here and say -- tell her she's wrong - so completely wrong. I get really tired of hearing women complain that their guy can't get them off, that it's something they are or aren't doing. We, as women, are responsible for our own orgasms, if we can't figure out what makes us happy, how on earth can we ever expect someone else to do it. The only thing I can suggest is to give her a hand mirror, and a bottle of lube, and tell her to go have fun with herself for a while... The mirror helps you see what you are touching, and where your hand is - -and the lube makes it slippery. Honestly, if she's not comfortable doing that - then the "everything but" you both are doing she shouldn't be doing. It's not your fault, don't ever think for a moment that it is... __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.