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brknkybrd · 10-29-2004, 03:33 PM

28. It just happened this year. I didn't wait that long by choice. In high school, I thought of myself as really fat (I was, and I still carry several extra kilos, but mindset is everything...), and pretty slow, and in University I wasn't much better -- although that's when the 'slow' part finally started getting better.

After University, working shit jobs and seeing how most everyone else around me was getting what they wanted (including scoring with girls) and I wasn't, finally I got more social. A big change in my attitude plus financial desparation took me to teaching in Korea.

Korea forced me to be social -- it was either get out there and be social with the foriegners or be lonely. I picked up a tiny bit of the language. I talked to people, and I smiled. I made a shitload of really, really stupid mistakes and got really frustrated trying to date with girls. I pissed off a lot of good, kind potential dates with my angst. 90% of those first girls I really talked to don't even want to chat by e-mail anymore. I lost a lot of good friends.

Finally, after the angst was gone, I was able to convince myself that dating wasn't so important in the face of all the good things I *did* have - a good, fun job, a more full and satisfying social life than I ever had back home, and a new confidence.

And then I had an idea. I posted an ad a local cafe where I knew the shopowner. It was worded (in both languages!) as a language exchange ad, where I would teach somebody English, and they would teach me Korean. I got a lot of enthusiastic responses to the ad, and that's how I met her.

After meeting every day for week, she and I really connected. I had a mind to ask her out, but she was too fast for me -- she called me up one night and asked to come over. It took us two hours of talking to figure out we were crazy for each other.

She took me to my bed that very night. We've been dating steady for three months. I absolutely love her.

Sorry 'bout the long post. Feels good to tell this story now...

10-29-2004, 03:33 PM	#405 (permalink)
brknkybrd I think I broke something. Location: Right behind you.	28. It just happened this year. I didn't wait that long by choice. In high school, I thought of myself as really fat (I was, and I still carry several extra kilos, but mindset is everything...), and pretty slow, and in University I wasn't much better -- although that's when the 'slow' part finally started getting better. After University, working shit jobs and seeing how most everyone else around me was getting what they wanted (including scoring with girls) and I wasn't, finally I got more social. A big change in my attitude plus financial desparation took me to teaching in Korea. Korea forced me to be social -- it was either get out there and be social with the foriegners or be lonely. I picked up a tiny bit of the language. I talked to people, and I smiled. I made a shitload of really, really stupid mistakes and got really frustrated trying to date with girls. I pissed off a lot of good, kind potential dates with my angst. 90% of those first girls I really talked to don't even want to chat by e-mail anymore. I lost a lot of good friends. Finally, after the angst was gone, I was able to convince myself that dating wasn't so important in the face of all the good things I did have - a good, fun job, a more full and satisfying social life than I ever had back home, and a new confidence. And then I had an idea. I posted an ad a local cafe where I knew the shopowner. It was worded (in both languages!) as a language exchange ad, where I would teach somebody English, and they would teach me Korean. I got a lot of enthusiastic responses to the ad, and that's how I met her. After meeting every day for week, she and I really connected. I had a mind to ask her out, but she was too fast for me -- she called me up one night and asked to come over. It took us two hours of talking to figure out we were crazy for each other. She took me to my bed that very night. We've been dating steady for three months. I absolutely love her. Sorry 'bout the long post. Feels good to tell this story now... __________________ Normal is overrated. Last edited by brknkybrd; 10-29-2004 at 03:35 PM..