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Prince · 10-23-2004, 11:47 PM

Yeah. Throw the 22-year-old in jail, so the taxpayer will foot the bill for his living expenses. Right.

He didn't have sex with a child, he had sex with a minor. I'm 27 and I'm still my father's child, but I am not a minor as of 18 years of age. The law states that a 16 year old is a minor, but it doesn't specify him/her as a child. Make of that difference what you will, it's there. And by my personal standards, a 16 year old is not a child, albeit being a minor. Anyway, so much for that.

I don't know if I will have anything to say that hasn't been said already. One thing I definitely do not understand is why you're holding child support as some sort of a ticket or license for the father to see his child. Especially when his child is as little as he is. Has the guy had ample time to come to terms with the fact that he is a father, or did you slap those charges on him before the child was even born? Not all men are made equal, or even of the same mold. You seem to be doing quite well for yourself, and judging by your vocabulary as well as your ideals and moral standing I'd go as far as to guess that you didn't grow up on the streets, either. This "loser", as you have stamped him, has not established his place in life and isn't making even minimum wage. Instead of offering this new family your emotional support and love as they figure out what is happening and where they go from here, you attack them with every legal weapon you've got.

Someone mentioned that as long as young people feed off of their parents financially, they have to abide by their parents' wishes. This is total bullshit, if you ask me. If you write checks for your kids, you're doing it out of your own free - or perhaps not so free - will. You can choose either to help your child financially, or not to. Either way you should not expect your checks to purchase you some leverage in telling her how to run her life. Your decision to help should come without strings attached, or else it is an act of selfishness in my book.

Victor, your daughter is a mother now, at a relatively young age. If a young mother of a child needs anything, it is confidence and the ability to trust those around her. By treating her the way you have, you are not only making yourself untrustworthy in a time of need, but your actions are also questioning and undermining her ability to run her own life. This can very easily translate in her mind to you suggesting that she is not and will not be a fit mother to her child.

How about you take a step back and ask yourself, what is it that you have done that has earned you the right to remain involved in your daughter's and your grandson's lives? Other than the money you throw around.

10-23-2004, 11:47 PM	#72 (permalink)
Prince /nɑndəsˈkrɪpt/ Location: LV-426	Yeah. Throw the 22-year-old in jail, so the taxpayer will foot the bill for his living expenses. Right. He didn't have sex with a child, he had sex with a minor. I'm 27 and I'm still my father's child, but I am not a minor as of 18 years of age. The law states that a 16 year old is a minor, but it doesn't specify him/her as a child. Make of that difference what you will, it's there. And by my personal standards, a 16 year old is not a child, albeit being a minor. Anyway, so much for that. I don't know if I will have anything to say that hasn't been said already. One thing I definitely do not understand is why you're holding child support as some sort of a ticket or license for the father to see his child. Especially when his child is as little as he is. Has the guy had ample time to come to terms with the fact that he is a father, or did you slap those charges on him before the child was even born? Not all men are made equal, or even of the same mold. You seem to be doing quite well for yourself, and judging by your vocabulary as well as your ideals and moral standing I'd go as far as to guess that you didn't grow up on the streets, either. This "loser", as you have stamped him, has not established his place in life and isn't making even minimum wage. Instead of offering this new family your emotional support and love as they figure out what is happening and where they go from here, you attack them with every legal weapon you've got. Someone mentioned that as long as young people feed off of their parents financially, they have to abide by their parents' wishes. This is total bullshit, if you ask me. If you write checks for your kids, you're doing it out of your own free - or perhaps not so free - will. You can choose either to help your child financially, or not to. Either way you should not expect your checks to purchase you some leverage in telling her how to run her life. Your decision to help should come without strings attached, or else it is an act of selfishness in my book. Victor, your daughter is a mother now, at a relatively young age. If a young mother of a child needs anything, it is confidence and the ability to trust those around her. By treating her the way you have, you are not only making yourself untrustworthy in a time of need, but your actions are also questioning and undermining her ability to run her own life. This can very easily translate in her mind to you suggesting that she is not and will not be a fit mother to her child. How about you take a step back and ask yourself, what is it that you have done that has earned you the right to remain involved in your daughter's and your grandson's lives? Other than the money you throw around. __________________ Who is John Galt?