o . . k. . .
We got a lotta work to do here.
I'm gonna be brutally blunt and honest. Just an upfront warning.
First off, he's hitting you. That's unacceptable. It needs to stop. If it ever happens again, leave the house and call the police.
If you ever hit him again, he should do the same.
You're both yelling at each other and hitting each other, and then you say
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I want to solve my problem and I want us to be happy all of the time.
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All this is telling me that you do not have realistic views of relationships. No one is happy all the time, there is no such thing as happilly ever after.
It seems at first blush (and admittedly two paragraphs is not enough to know for sure) that you entered into a marriage that you were not emotionally or maturationally ready for, and so did he. You both need joint marriage counselling right now, no ifs ands or buts.
You go to church? Often times clergy is also trained in counselling, or knows someone who is and who is free or very inexpensive.
I'll put it this way - if you do not get counselling, the cycle of mutual abuse will continue until you get a divorce or one (or both) of you gets arrested.