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Gogogo · 10-20-2004, 01:10 PM

My take on this:
Your friend did something wrong, and it will turn out to be big issue no matter how it is handled. Either it will eat at him and become a growing pain that eventually could destroy the relationship, or he tells her and she gets offended at his wrongdoing. However, it could be turned to an opportunity.
The situation is that their marriage is already in jeopardy and I'll relate this little bit:
My mother's friend was cheating on her husband and he found out. At first he ignored it, and it became, in his words, a "big ball of pain" in his chest that never left. He didn't tell his wife that he knew for a long time until both he and his wife mutually decided to get a divorce. This was right before christmas and they decided to tell their kids after the new year had begun because of theur kids.
Then Christmas Eve comes around and they both drink one to many cognacs, and they begin to talk. They are both really looking forward to getting out of the marriage and they were both tired from the stress of Christmas, the stress of the relationship and the cognac, so the husband tells the wife that he knows about the affair, and was wondering whether she would get into a relationship with the guy. She is ashamed, shocked and a little angry so she has no idea what to say.
He goes on telling her calmly how much it hurt him, and pretty much every feeling and thought he has had about her and their marriage. He ends by telling her that he is so angry and hurt that he is just looking forward to January and their separation, and gets up to get a last drink before bedtime. His wife gets up and silently hugs his back as he pours the cognac and says "I still love you..."
What do you think happened next? Nope no passionate making up sex, instead they both just talked the whole night through.

The husband always drags me over to tell this story when my mother throw parties, and I was there. He always ends with the line "and now she orgasms every time.." and a little wink. One of those weird "wisdom of life" stories drunk adults tell the younger generation about challenges and opportunities.

The kicker is, he discovered the affair by accidentaly opening her email... (at least that is what he says...)

10-20-2004, 01:10 PM	#18 (permalink)
Gogogo Upright	My take on this: Your friend did something wrong, and it will turn out to be big issue no matter how it is handled. Either it will eat at him and become a growing pain that eventually could destroy the relationship, or he tells her and she gets offended at his wrongdoing. However, it could be turned to an opportunity. The situation is that their marriage is already in jeopardy and I'll relate this little bit: My mother's friend was cheating on her husband and he found out. At first he ignored it, and it became, in his words, a "big ball of pain" in his chest that never left. He didn't tell his wife that he knew for a long time until both he and his wife mutually decided to get a divorce. This was right before christmas and they decided to tell their kids after the new year had begun because of theur kids. Then Christmas Eve comes around and they both drink one to many cognacs, and they begin to talk. They are both really looking forward to getting out of the marriage and they were both tired from the stress of Christmas, the stress of the relationship and the cognac, so the husband tells the wife that he knows about the affair, and was wondering whether she would get into a relationship with the guy. She is ashamed, shocked and a little angry so she has no idea what to say. He goes on telling her calmly how much it hurt him, and pretty much every feeling and thought he has had about her and their marriage. He ends by telling her that he is so angry and hurt that he is just looking forward to January and their separation, and gets up to get a last drink before bedtime. His wife gets up and silently hugs his back as he pours the cognac and says "I still love you..." What do you think happened next? Nope no passionate making up sex, instead they both just talked the whole night through. The husband always drags me over to tell this story when my mother throw parties, and I was there. He always ends with the line "and now she orgasms every time.." and a little wink. One of those weird "wisdom of life" stories drunk adults tell the younger generation about challenges and opportunities. The kicker is, he discovered the affair by accidentaly opening her email... (at least that is what he says...)