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It's kinda funny...

My wife never keeps up with my libido, and that's ok. But as soon as my libido drops, she is convinced that something is very wrong. I'm cheating, I don't find her sexy, I want to leave her for someone else... So being the attentive husband, I parrot to her the excuses she uses for me when her libido is low, and they are never acceptable.

So if I may be so bold as to ask a personal question... why did you have a lower libido beforehand? Were you cheating, stressed out, only looking for a handyman and not a lover? If none of these were your reasons, why should they be his reasons either? If any of those were your reasons, I can see why you'd feel a little nervous. As much as women go on about how they don't feel sexy to their man anymore, you would think they be a little more understanding when their actions make their men feel unsexy too.

Perhaps he has simply resigned himself to being a garbage taking-out, lawn-cutting machine. It's hard to be interested when you feel that you are only seen as that. Of course you can't ask him about that - that constitutes a feeling and men aren't allowed to talk about those. But you can change the way you relate.