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I'm another who related to your story, but only in part. I was the "tedy bear" guy too, and until just recently in my late 20's I lacked the self confidence to really have a relationship that worked. I now have a girlfriend who is amazing sexy and smart. I had given up on having a love life until I met her. I had resigned to the belief that I would die alone, and never feel requited love.
I haven't really had a problem with cheating girlfriends (maybe due to the limited number and lengths of relationship), but throughout my life I have been very close friends with many women. The thing I've learned most is that this Mars/Vernus stuff is mostly crap. the differences between men and women are minor compared to the differences in people in general. Why I think this relates to your post is that it's not that women are cheaters (some are, some aren't , just like men (and I would argue at about the same rate, seems many women are just better at keeping it hidden)or that once a cheater always a cheater. This is one of those things (like life) that all you can do is what you belive is right for yourself and those you love, and hope that it goes well. sometimes it will, sometimes it won't. but the odds of good things happening increase when act out of love and trust.
wow, I didn't realize I'm such a hippy, oh well
hope this had some value for you
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