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amire · 10-11-2004, 04:10 PM

Hello, everyone.

I'm a young, 18-year-old high school guy who's still trying to figure out the ins and outs of the dating scene. I have tons of insecurities and problems, but that's the subject for another post.

My problem is deciding whether or not a girl "suits" me. I find that I'm attracted to many different types of girls for many different reasons...the current one with whom I'm infatuated is perhaps the greatest person on the face of the Earth in terms of kindness, caring, and a general demeanor of happiness and content. I've fallen in love with girls in the past because of good looks and because of outgoing personality. This is the first one who I like because of her whole person.

But I digress. My question to you all is this: WHY did you and your SO end up together? What made you two so compatible? I'm not looking for HOW stories...I don't really care about the details, where you met, what happened that night, etc....I'm wondering WHY the relationship worked after the first evening and what sort of things cause the attraction between you two.

I'm expecting answers all over the board. Some people will say that the only reason they're still with their SO is through hard work. Others will say that there's some sort of intangible "chemistry" that goes on between the two of them. I don't think I've ever experienced real love (although my current infatuation probably gives me half the experience of love...haven't ventured to see if it's mutual yet), and I want to know what it is that causes two people to stay with each other for the rest of their lives.

I'm not a believer in love at first sight or "one special person" mainly because the average person never meets more than 1,000 or so people in his life and probably physically sees no more than 10,000 or 100,000 people....there are 6 BILLION people on the planet, so I doubt that any one pair is really "meant" to be together.

So I'm trying to see how I can find someone compatible out of the few hundred I'll meet...and I'm looking to you guys for advice!

Please shoot me if this topic's been up before...I do apologize if that is the case.

Have a wonderful evening!

-amire

10-11-2004, 04:10 PM	#1 (permalink)
amire Crazy	Why (not how) did you and your SO end up together? Hello, everyone. I'm a young, 18-year-old high school guy who's still trying to figure out the ins and outs of the dating scene. I have tons of insecurities and problems, but that's the subject for another post. My problem is deciding whether or not a girl "suits" me. I find that I'm attracted to many different types of girls for many different reasons...the current one with whom I'm infatuated is perhaps the greatest person on the face of the Earth in terms of kindness, caring, and a general demeanor of happiness and content. I've fallen in love with girls in the past because of good looks and because of outgoing personality. This is the first one who I like because of her whole person. But I digress. My question to you all is this: WHY did you and your SO end up together? What made you two so compatible? I'm not looking for HOW stories...I don't really care about the details, where you met, what happened that night, etc....I'm wondering WHY the relationship worked after the first evening and what sort of things cause the attraction between you two. I'm expecting answers all over the board. Some people will say that the only reason they're still with their SO is through hard work. Others will say that there's some sort of intangible "chemistry" that goes on between the two of them. I don't think I've ever experienced real love (although my current infatuation probably gives me half the experience of love...haven't ventured to see if it's mutual yet), and I want to know what it is that causes two people to stay with each other for the rest of their lives. I'm not a believer in love at first sight or "one special person" mainly because the average person never meets more than 1,000 or so people in his life and probably physically sees no more than 10,000 or 100,000 people....there are 6 BILLION people on the planet, so I doubt that any one pair is really "meant" to be together. So I'm trying to see how I can find someone compatible out of the few hundred I'll meet...and I'm looking to you guys for advice! Please shoot me if this topic's been up before...I do apologize if that is the case. Have a wonderful evening! -amire