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Well, all arguments aside, I believe that since they have a kid, they've already had sex. So, that is a moot point. I think it boils down to are you in the wrong for pursuing what you think is right for your daughter? Hell no aren't. She is your daughter and involved father or not your one job is to see that she is raised as you see fit. Now the technique you choose to use to accomplish this is up for argument here.
I say, if you think you are hurting your relationship by doing what you are doing, then stop. Maybe it is just justice you are seeking, but whats more important is how capable she is when she is on her own in a few years. An idea you might try is to say, "Okay, I'm backing off like you asked." One of two things can happen, everything could work out perfectly and she is happy that you backed off, or everything could go as you might expect: father or baby never helps or pays, daughter realizes that she made a huge mistake and that this guy is scum(if he is) and then learns something from that mistake.
Either way, she is likely to succeed in bringing up the child whether this guy goes to jail or not, so is all that really worth messing up a potential relationship with your daughter.
On the otherhand, maybe you stepping in is a good thing. Maybe she'll end up better off, and 5 years down the road, she'll thank you for butting your nose into her business. I think you should do whatever you see fit and I'll certainly not judge your decision. My daughter is only 3, and I hope never to be in your position, but if ever I am, I'll expect other parents to allow me to parent as I see fit.
Good luck, I hope everything works out well.
Herk
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