Utmost honesty.
I have a wife, and a we have a girlfriend (she's been with us for years now, and would be a 'second wife' except that's not legal.
Our girlfriend is definitely Ooh lah la. She's incredibly beautiful.
My wife, though still cute, has had health problems over the last few years that have made her put on a lot of weight. I like bigger women, but she's gotten to the point of obesity (350-360 lbs.). I love her to death, and we're working for her to be in better health and lose that weight, but I have to admit that if I didn't know anything about her, I would probably just walk on by.
The weird part is, it's not so much her looks that are hard for me to deal with, it's her lack of mobility. It's hard to be sexy when you can't really move.
