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At the age of 40+ I had an epiphany, I asked a simple question and something inside of clicked. I started to do research, ask more pointed questions and within a year my attitude a sense of self worth and a new person from deep with grew.
Listen we all have different needs and wants and even ways of communicating. After a while, when we think that we have it down and know our mates, they change. Its those time when first understand oneself helps to begin the process of learning to re-communicating with our mates can take place. Presently things of a sexual nature that I and my mate partake in had to take a back seat to new routines(school, for the kids, new job for her) moving and budgets reorganizations....but the lust and yurning's are there, just not able to follow through on everything that we like to do. But we have educated ourself and have learned a new set of communications skills to where, the flow though isn't the most important part, but as you said...The lusting and feeling of being wanted both physically and mentally are there. And from the beginning, my mate knew that cooking, cleaning, laundry are her responsibilities period and she loves it, because I make her do it... That doesn't mean I don't help when circumstances warrant it.... but we both know are roles, responsibilities as well as fantasies and needs...
Make fantasies a reality, the planning, timing, thinking are almost as fun and exciting as the execution of them.... good luck.
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LEATHER, LATEX and LACE "SSC"
"Nothing That Gives Pleasure is Bad"
Quality is for those who know
what they want and are at peace with what they have.
"S/M is about emotion; the erotic tension between my impulse toward something and my resistance against it."-- Virginia Barker
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