ratbastid

Anybody else have a red flag go up on "don't think he has time really"? What's he spending his time on? Work? Is he really busy? I suspect that stress is at the heart of this thing. When I've got more going on than I can handle, sex is the last thing on my mind.

Also, how long has this been going on? If it's a matter of weeks or even a couple months, you're probably not dealing with a long-term thing. When it comes to Not Getting Sex (or anything else we want, for that matter), people tend to magnify the problem and turn it into a "he never" or "it never" thing. When the reality of it might be: he's been under a lot of pressure at work because of a project that started four or five weeks ago, and he can't help bringing that stress home.

Find out where he's at. Conversations like, "You're not screwing me. Are you getting it on the side?" won't really forward things here. Let him know you're concerned about him, you'd like to know what's going on in his head. Give him room to open up or not, whatever he's comfortable with.