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Originally Posted by tom12
dress really sexy and get him nice and horny and be like "if you dont wanna do me someone else will"
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WRONG! Ultimatums are not the answer. Backing him into a corner will not deliver the results that you desire, and will only serve to make matters worse. Believe that.
1.) How old are you guys? Age does play a factor in the frequency of "encounters". It shouldn't kill it entirely, but it does lessen.
2.) Does he smoke? That lessens the sex drive.
3.) Coffee? Too much caffeine will also lessen the sex drive.
4.) What about your personal finances? Is he stressed out over where the money is going to come from to pay the mortgage, both car payments, the kids tuition and the grocery bill?
5.) How are things at work? Is he where he thought that he should be by now? Or is he perceiving his professional life as a failure?
6.) What about the house? Does he have to wade through mountains of clutter? Believe it or not, it's a factor.
7.) Is it possible that he's bored with his life?
Mal gave you, in my opinion, some excellent advice. She usually does. Get out of the day to day to day to day routine. Go to a restaraunt that you've never been to before. Go dancing at that hot new club. Hell, even going to the opening of a new exhibit at the art gallery. Anything new, different, unusual. Then, for gods sake, don't go home. Go to a nice hotel. Or...be "naughty". Go to a sleazy little "notell". You know...the ones that go for $26.99, right off the interstate. Just mix it up.
Above all...communicate. Don't accuse. Don't berate. Don't harp. Don't belittle. Just...talk.