Suave

Statutory rape is has very limited valid applications. There is a point, such as in this case (in my opinion of course) where it becomes stupid, and should no longer apply. A four year difference, that close to age of majority (for both of them) is almost nothing. Factor in the concpet that female mature faster sexually than males do, and you've got them on practically equal footing.

To the thread creator: I think it was a bad move to press charges purely on the father being 20 and your daughter being 16. I've read through here that he seems not to be a good father however, and that does change my perspective a bit. I don't know that pressing charged was still the best choice, as it did alienate your daughter, but certainly something should be done.