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TheBrit · 10-02-2004, 02:36 AM

Yeah. I was an arse.
I met this girl once, with a friend, spoke to her for about 5 minutes and got her phone number. After talking to her on the phone for a couple of hours a week for about a month, we decided to meet up, go to the cinema. So, in the cinema I put my arm round her, she was alright with it. We then walked around Leicester Square (soho/cinema place/china town in London) for about 3 hours, arms round each other, talking. When we decided we should go our separate ways, I walked to the underground station with her, we waited on the platform (getting the same train) and I tried to kiss her. She didn't seem too pleased with that, but invited me back to her house. I was feeling a little off and said I'd better get home for some reason or another. We got the same train up to where I had to get off to get another, and that was that.
Basically, after that I asked her out a few more times, we went out a few more times, and it culminated at her sleeping at my house after a Christmas party, and shortly after, me sleeping at her house. I had asked her if she wanted to go out with me on a whole boyfriend/girlfriend basis, she said no. After that, I felt pretty bad about it, but we continued to meet up, go back to her house and essentially use each other. We were quite good friends before I asked her out, but after that we still went out to eat together, went shopping when we needed company etc. but it just wasn't the same as before.
Where this is leading is that we just ended up using each other, but feeling kind of bad about it. She then got a boyfriend, painfully enough a friend of mine. Since then I haven't phoned her once and might speak to her on MSN Messenger occasionally.
Probably the most painful bit was that a week before she got a boyfriend, she gave me her MP3 player which had stopped working. I opened it up, soldered up the PCB where it had fallen apart, fixed it up and when it came to giving it back to her I had to give it to a mutual friend, i.e. her boyfriend. Really painful.
I wouldn't do it, it's just too complicated. You'll end up feeling something more for this friend and chances are those feelings will be crushed. I wouldn't do it again.

10-02-2004, 02:36 AM	#2 (permalink)
TheBrit Psycho	Yeah. I was an arse. I met this girl once, with a friend, spoke to her for about 5 minutes and got her phone number. After talking to her on the phone for a couple of hours a week for about a month, we decided to meet up, go to the cinema. So, in the cinema I put my arm round her, she was alright with it. We then walked around Leicester Square (soho/cinema place/china town in London) for about 3 hours, arms round each other, talking. When we decided we should go our separate ways, I walked to the underground station with her, we waited on the platform (getting the same train) and I tried to kiss her. She didn't seem too pleased with that, but invited me back to her house. I was feeling a little off and said I'd better get home for some reason or another. We got the same train up to where I had to get off to get another, and that was that. Basically, after that I asked her out a few more times, we went out a few more times, and it culminated at her sleeping at my house after a Christmas party, and shortly after, me sleeping at her house. I had asked her if she wanted to go out with me on a whole boyfriend/girlfriend basis, she said no. After that, I felt pretty bad about it, but we continued to meet up, go back to her house and essentially use each other. We were quite good friends before I asked her out, but after that we still went out to eat together, went shopping when we needed company etc. but it just wasn't the same as before. Where this is leading is that we just ended up using each other, but feeling kind of bad about it. She then got a boyfriend, painfully enough a friend of mine. Since then I haven't phoned her once and might speak to her on MSN Messenger occasionally. Probably the most painful bit was that a week before she got a boyfriend, she gave me her MP3 player which had stopped working. I opened it up, soldered up the PCB where it had fallen apart, fixed it up and when it came to giving it back to her I had to give it to a mutual friend, i.e. her boyfriend. Really painful. I wouldn't do it, it's just too complicated. You'll end up feeling something more for this friend and chances are those feelings will be crushed. I wouldn't do it again.