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A relationship is about respecting each other's feelings. Telling her she can't go will only make you look like a jerk and probably intensify her feeling that she should go. Explain your feelings, but make sure that she understands that you are not telling her what to do.
As for it being a trust issue, I think it is and you are only trying to convince yourself otherwise. I've done it in my relationship. I made up all kinds of what if's, but it always boiled down to a trust issue. I think it is close to impossible to truly trust someone if you really love them. They hold too much of your feelings and there is always a self preservation instinct. In my case I just think that everyone makes bad choices at times and some situations, such as yours, just seem to be hedging the odds on those choices being made.
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