nack104

First of all, I'm 18.

My girlfriend and I have a very good relationship. We've been through hard times, yet nothing has and I honestly believe nothing could deter us. However, there is one problem I have that really bothers me.

I am very comfortable with her in bed, and I have an erection pretty much anytime I'm in bed with her. However, as soon as I go get a condom or when she begins pleasuring me, I lose my erection. It is so frustrating because it is just very embarrassing. She isn't really into helping me get the erection back after it's gone, so every night with her is pretty much just me pleasuring her and that's that. But now it's gotten to the point where she doesn't want me pleasuring her because she isn't able to return the favor. I really think the problem is because of two things. First, I have really bad anxiety. I can not go to the bathroom around other people, so I think that's mostly the reason why I can't orgasm ever no matter what she does. Second, I think part of it is I respect her so much that I think I feel disgusted to have her go down on me. Because of this combination, even if I keep my erection, I wouldn't be able to orgasm. I think if I didn't need to put on a condom, I'd be able to keep erect during sex, but I most likely wouldn't orgasm.

Sex isn't that important to me, but I think this is really about me needing to be assured that I can do it if the situation arises. It's just very depressing to think that I can't even have sex and that my girlfriend becomes upset when we discuss it. Is there anything I can do so that next time I see my girlfriend I will be completely rid of the problem? I would appreciate any advice, but one thing that will not work is having her help me through this while we're together. To be clear, if I do not cum or I lose my erection, that's just the way it is and there's nothing she will do to help. It's just so hurtful for me and the relationship for me to be dwelling over this, but I can't help it.