come on... let's be honest. you don't trust her. and, from the limited amount that any of us know about the situation i would say that mistrust is warranted. she shouldn't place your relationship in the crosshairs simply because she wants to go be "inspired" by another man. when people get married (especially when they have kids) they give up certain activities and freedoms to commit to a relationship. i don't think i'm out of line to say that going off to spend a weekend with a guy she met while you were split is one of those things.
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Originally Posted by lurkette
last I'd checked she's an adult who doesn't need permission from her husband to go anywhere or do anything.
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that is a damaging notion, i would avoid it like the plague. you are accountable to each other in equal measure.
don't let her go... but the root cause of this seems to be other problems in your relationship. trying to come down on her whenever she gets these ideas doesn't stop her motivations and will not work for a long term solution. whatever problems exist, turn and face them... let her know that your marriage and child should be the most important thing in your lives, all other desires are secondary to that commitment.
this situation appears to be a symptom, not a cause.