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last I'd checked she's an adult who doesn't need permission from her husband to go anywhere or do anything.
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Excuse me? It has nothing to do with controlling. It's a relationship with bonds, love and trust. Feelings should be expressed and respected, but not used as a weapon. Last I checked there are two people in a relationship and if the action involves something this fishy and questionable someone should HAVE permission. Being an adult and your own person doesn't mean saying "Screw you I'm an adult. I don't need your permission." to your partner just because you want something. This is a marriage not a women's-lib rally. Spare me the politics.
Let's see: She met the guy when they were broken up and he "inspires" her. She wants to go "stay" with him in a different state while the husband is at home with the kid.
Wake up and smell the coffee.
What fantasy world do you live in? My relationship is strong with my wife. Neither of us is bitchy or controlling of the other, but I'd be damned if my wife was going to leave me at home with the kids to go stay with a guy "friend" she met when we were split up. My wife says the same thing if it was me in that situation. This is real life, not a book or a TV show. These are real people and not imaginary characters or hypothetical situations. Love is very strong, overpowering emotion. Being protective is part of that, be it of your spouse, your relationship, or your own feelings. This guy's wife shouldn't be putting him in this situation of "damned if you, damned if you don't". If she loved him enough, she wouldn't.
This entire situation looks bogus from the get-go. Take a closer look at the situation and get a clue.
Idea: Tell her while she's gone you're going to need the kid to stay at a relatives because you are going to go stay with a female "friend" you met at the same time she met old Mr. Inspiring. See what tune she whistles then.
