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CrossEyedLover, I appreciate your first-hand experience, but I think you're assuming an awful lot about the situation, like that "she is unhappy with something in your relationship..." etc. And as for "I WOULD NOT LET HER GO," last I'd checked she's an adult who doesn't need permission from her husband to go anywhere or do anything. There's a difference between expressing discomfort (healthy) and laying down the law (controlling).
Hellasnow, I think the key here is communication, communication, communication. You are the only person who can know the state of your relationship, and all of us can sit here and analyze and assume until the cows come home. The way I see it, there are several options:
1. Have her go and keep quiet about your discomfort and let it eat you up. Bad idea.
2. Express your discomfort and have her not go till you have worked out whatever it is that makes you uncomfortable, whether it's actual problems in your relationship or just your own insecurities. Do you really think there's some risk of infidelity, or are you jealous because he has some perceived connection with her that you find threatening? If you really can't get comfy with it, she should be willing to forego the trip till you've worked things out. (Although don't expect her to do it 100% cheerfully.)
3. Express your discomfort, have her go, and deal with your insecurities later. If you think it's really all in your head, you should just suck it up, give her some freedom and trust, and deal with what needs to be dealt with.
Any way you slice it, there are two things to take care of: real issues in your relationship together, and your own issues that don't stem from any real problems but from your own imagination and fears.
Good luck!
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